Dear Sweetee, when I was divorcing my children's father---an unbelieveably narcissistic jerk (not an alcoholic), I was faced with the same thing with every interaction.
I had to come to terms with some real hard life lessons. I had to deal with life as it WAS not how it should be. Was he unfair---H*** yes!
Sweetee, what is this man teaching you about what you have to do? Please ponder this question.
I wish I had had alanon back then (I didn't have a qualifier!)
I say.....grab onto alanon and hang on for dear life!
dandylion