Originally Posted by
NYCDoglvr Fascinating thread. What helped me see more clearly was this: one day I realized that even though I complained and expressed anger, the action of staying with an alcoholic said I agreed with him. By being with him I went along with his drinking, rage, lies and abuse.
After one of my typical rants about the ******* my sponsor said: "well, you picked him!" It felt like being punched but was a huge gift because I could no longer pretend I was a victim.
I feel the same way and it's what bugs me the most. I feel like I am actually saying those exact words: I agree with you, even though you're being an *ss.