I HAVE A PROBLEM... really hit me. My ASon said something to that affect when we saw him 2 weeks into rehab at a 'family meeting'. "my problem"... Got me thinking and understanding his alcoholism problem. The 'real son' is awesome. I am not a spouse, rather a mom so I will always love my son and can't get to the point a spouse can, I don't think. I am sad, but things make me 'think' hard and long about what I have done for our son and how I want to live the rest of my life however long or however short it may be.