Boo, stop, sit, breathe! REPEAT! Stay the night at your friend's and then head to your mom's. You need to stop worrying about what he and his family will think of you. This is about you and your kids and nobody else now. Keep them safe, keep you safe. I live in a common law state and in alot of them now domestic violence is picked up by the state even in the person who files the complaint wont press charges. THIS IS TO PROTECT YOU!! Get a restraining order wherever you land and keep him away from you and your babies.