Originally Posted by
LaTeeDa 
Oh, and I wanted to add that I did "win" a few times. Temporarily. He quit drinking a few times. The longest was about four months. Did I get what I wanted for four months? Well, you would think so. Really what I got was angry, resentful, nasty mean AH because he hated me for "making him" stop drinking.
It's easy for me to see all this from where I sit--six years out. But, I know how hard it is from where you are. And I also know how much you want to think he is different, you are different, your relationship is different. I wanted to think that, too.
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L
Thanks so much for sharing, L. Yes it is hard. And, yes, I want to think our relationship is different. I have a feeling he's in angry, resentful, nasty mean land because I told him I'd separate if he continues to drink. My boundary, but I don't think HE sees it that way.