Classic power struggle dynamics. You continue trying to get him to see things your way, he continues to try and convince you that you are wrong. And around and around and around it goes. Both people trying their best to "win." There are no winners here, only pain and suffering and madness. I was in the same power struggle with my AH for years. It only ended when I stopped trying to convince him I was right. I knew I was right and it stopped mattering whether he agreed or not.
I also thought a counselor would help me "win." He thought the same thing. Needless to say, it was a waste of time and money.
I still remember the day he told me "you can't tell me what to do, I'll drink if I want." And I told him "you're right, go ahead, and I will do what I want." And I meant it. He was speechless. And it was over for me.
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