Alcoholics/junkies dont do well with ultimatums. BUT on the other hand, I had a hard time trying to set boundaries with a 41 year old grown @$$ adult. IMO she flat out should have "known better" at this stage in her life. But, this is also a mentally ill person, I am dealing with, with PTSD, sociopathic tendencies, and possibly bipolar??? I dont know what the hell I was expecting. She has spent so much time behind bars and in various correctional facilities that she thinks talks and acts like a convict, even outside the walls. (I was unaware of much of this, again, HAD I KNOWN I wouldnt have bothered.)...when this divorce BS is finally finalized, once and for all, and I spend about a year working on myself, my goal is to find a nice, normal NON JUNKIE/ALCOHOLIC s.o. who I dont have to set boundaries with because they flat out know better.