Originally Posted by
sparklingeyes 
That may not be true. The alcoholic takes swings to get back some of their self esteem.
Doesn't make the behavior ok or acceptable, unless you want to allow yourself to be abused.
The alcoholic "takes swings" for the disease to protect its perimeter. I don't believe its about self-esteem at all, but an innate sense of survival on the part of the addiction.
If the problem is always you, the light never has to shine on his addiction, right?