My XAH LOVED/LOVES to spew nasty little rants like that. His favorite below the belt shot is to call me a materialistic c*nt... Like my mother. Oh, that is really his favorite... And especially adding on the "like your mother" part bc he knows my mom and I do not get along. ironically, me and the kids are living in a 1,000 sf house while he just bought a 2,600 sf house... For just him!!!
He's a darling. Odd that he's STILL telling people he doesn't understand why I left him. The only logical reason (in his illogical mind!) is that I've got some hot tamale I'm shagging!!
One thing that I heard recently at an al-Anon meeting... Be careful how often you play back the "tapes." Meaning... The more we relive and harp on the bad, the more we stay focused on it. Better to see it, acknowledge it, work through it and move on.
That was huge for me because I never realized just how much I replayed the tapes... Keeping the wounds fresh, and my focus on the wrong stuff.
You've come so far WTBH... Time to burn the tapes
