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Old 07-27-2012, 10:09 AM
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lillamy
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I am what I call a half-assed Buddhist.
I have this image of you trying to sit and meditate like Buddha and falling over because you only have half an ass...

But seriously.
Anger.

For me, anger served a purpose.
I had spent 20 years squashing my anger (it was AXH's prerogative to be angry -- there was no space for anyone else's anger. Or other feelings for that matter) and letting it out was actually healthy. Post-alcoholic-marriage, I have had to re-teach myself to have my feelings. And express them properly. It was a revelation to me that I could get angry without bad things happening. It was a revelation to me that anger could be something positive. And the positive for me was that anger kept me remembering the bad stuff. Being angry kept me from feeling sorry for him. Wondering about how he was doing. And all that codie stuff I was so prone to doing.

So while in general, I think the half-assed-Buddhistery has it right -- let's not underestimate the power of taking back your right to your own emotions.
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