(((((ElectricLights)))))
Please listen to your Mum. Do NOT at this time bring his problems into your
son's life.
Let me tell you a short story of my own Experience. In 1972 I was diagnosed
(yes I was still drinking) as Manic Depressive/Schizophrenic and chose at that
time to do nothing about it as the medications they wanted me to take made
me all 'dopey' (go figure as alcohol didn't do that, lol).
9 years later in June of '81 I found recovery from Alcoholism. Now I stayed
sober, but was absolutely and totally insane for the first 8 years of my sobriety
until in May of '89 when it was so bad, and the thought of 'drinking' came back
as a means to help me (again I wanted to self medicate) I started asking
around the rooms of AA for anyone who knew or had experience with a
therapist or psychiatrist that had experience with alcoholics as I was ready to
commit myself to a 'padded cell' forever.
I found a great Dr. She first had a complete physical done on me, (looking
for any chemical imbalances) and then we got down to work. I now had an
official diagnosis as Bi-Polar. That has since been upgraded to Bi-Polar 2.
This is the 'same diagnosis' only upgraded that I got in '72 when I was still
drinking. It took another 5 years to finally get my medications balanced out
and I finally started to become a 'rational level' human being most of the
time.
I know of many others that have mental problems in addition to their alcoholism,
but every one of them had to get sober and maintain sobriety before they could
work on their other mental problems, and it took them years also.
I tell you this, because you really, I do not believe, want to raise your son in the
INSANITY of being dually diagnosed, especially since his father is not being serious
about his recovery.
As far as his father saying they will fight for custody, not blody likely. He is, as
you have already stated enabling his son, and I cannot seriously see those two
boys raising a child 24/7. Besides which, you have the proof of what he is like,
and I really doubt that a judge would give him custody, possibly he might get
'supervised' visitation with supervision by a 'non family member.'
I hope this will make you think a bit more and decide to LISTEN to your Mum,
and if need be, move back to the lower 48 to whatever state you lived in be-
fore.
J M H O
Love and hugs,