You CAN Cyranoak. You really, really can. Jeez, if you only knew how I was when I did it: So very young, naive, and stupid, with no education, no home to go to, no job, absolutely nothing but my car and some clothes, sleeping in people's basements and on their couches and on the floor, and I did it. I left him and I left him behind. And you know what? Here I am, 15 years later, and he is STILL doing the same things he was doing before, moving from basement apartment to basement apartment, drinking and doing drugs, complaining and blaming everyone but himself, especially that "black cloud that follows me around wherever I go."