Last night I told him all about how I spent my day reading up on alcoholism. Told him the one thing I learned was I can't do anything to make him quit and that I was done trying. I told him how mad I was that he has ruined a good thing. We both have jobs, a house, great kids and our health. I told him I was tired of being miserable. Like so many others, we live separate lives. He hides and avoids me constantly. We do not share important conversations or decisions anymore. He is not abusive and I feel no threats so for now we will both be under one roof. I will be figuring out how to move on without him if he doesn't get some kind of help though. My feeling is he still thinks he can just quit whenever he wants. I don't have much confidence in what he says. When he hides from all of us and tries to look busy outside to secretly drink, all trust in our marriage is gone. My guess is he will "be good" for awhile and in a few weeks we will be right back at this point.