Recovery update: Mine and his
Last night I went to Al-Anon with a friend. I had been before but didn't really give it a full chance, so I'm trying to do that now. Honestly, I didn't get much out of the meeting last night-- it was all about service within Al-Anon, so it was very insiders and people kept using initials like RD the whole time. I felt kind of shaky and overwhelmed being there. Still, I'm glad I went, and I am going to visit some other meetings.
In the meantime, I have had contact with XABF and he, who refused to admit he had a problem, is now going to AA. (He went to maybe three meetings in the past but did not commit). He is 10 days sober, has gone to a meeting every day and has a sponsor. He sounds very focused -- taking care of other things he was neglecting, etc. and very calm. He says he wants to do this for him, and he's feeling good.
Both of us have a long recovery road ahead. We will see where it leads us. My focus remains taking care of me, and so far so good!
Weekend was productive. Ordered more furniture for my place. Shopped a lot (for home stuff and groceries -- actually going to cook this week)! Spent time with girlfriends.
Thanks for listening!