sweetteewalls, thank you for sharing your story. I hope you keep posting.
Your separation with your AH is most definitely different than mine. It's interesting to hear(read) about because my separated AH is so far in denial and unable to own any of his issues or address them. He's spent the last six weeks trying to convince me he's not an alcoholic, and has since refused to see his substance abuse counselor. He's running a lot, working a lot, golfing a lot- which apparently are cure alls because he "feels so physically and mentally well, better than" he ever has. And it really really bothers him that I think he has a drinking problem!