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Old 07-14-2012, 08:27 AM
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I'm glad your therapist will help you navigate all this.

I wrote from my own experience, as my abusive AH many years ago would launch into his terrible childhood and terrible parents and his low self-esteem and his pain and his sorrows while he continued drinking and continued inflicting his emotional violence onto every member of his family, absolutely destroying every one of us.

So I haven't much patience with poor-me addicts who are refusing treatment unloading their issues onto the people they are simultaneously destroying.

I am advocating for you. You can expect him to be accountable for his issues, to seek treatment and ongoing counseling, you can expect him to grow up and be a decent man. When he opens his mouth with the childhood stories and how wounded and vulnerable he is, you can instantly say, "Not my problem. Get some help."

When he sobers up for a significant period of time, then you can place some merit on what comes out of his mouth. Today, in my opinion, it's just the disease talking.
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