When I first separated from my AH, self-care meant resuming the basics that had been lost in an all-consuming alcoholic/codependent marriage. Exercise, eating right, getting back on schedule with check-ups, drinking more water, getting enough sleep, etc. Hard to believe most of those things went by the wayside.
Now that the basic physical nurturing has become routine again, I focus on nurturing my soul. For me, that means spending as much time in nature as I possibly can, playing with and walking my puppy, and of course taking and processing photographs.
I've also made the decision to leave my job of 15 years, sell my house, and downsize my life. It just feels like the right thing to do at this point in my life. I'm so looking forward to spending my time doing what I love, rather than doing what others expect.
L