Old 07-13-2012, 07:43 AM
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When you write "I feel like a failure" that is a symptom of codependent thinking. So you are right, a return to Al-Anon to get your thinking cleared up is a great idea.

To be healthy again means not to be hooked by an addict's behavior. As soon as you begin thinking "what should I do for him?" you are hooked again.

As others have said, it is compassionate to say a prayer for his well-being, but hands off the addict. Do not dive into his addiction, his business, his medical issues, his recovery.

We have to monitor our own egos in these situations. We can be as grandiose as the addict when we think we will be the one who makes a difference in the direction of his life.
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