Thank you for the supportive comments everyone.
Amy55 - thank you for sharing your story. What you did was wonderful and Im so happy it had a good outcome.
Sunshine2 - thank you for the kind comment about my husband. I am actually proud of him that he wants to help. And I do agree with you that people need to be very careful about NOT being willing to put themselves out there and help others.
I havent read a lot about the codependency. I know it is BIG on this forum. I guess I feel that I am happy with my life, and I think I lead a healthy life, and so why do I need to make a change? If what we are doing by opening up our home to this young man whos life is currently in turmoil is a sure sign of codependency, then that is fine by me. Weve never taken in anyone before, so hoepfully it wont become a bad habit.
Back years ago, people helped each other out a lot more than they do now, and they thought nothing of it. People shared what they had, and they did it with a kind heart and good intentions. If they got burned, then they chalked it up to a lesson learned and maybe they were more careful next time.
Ive never been afraid to put myself out there and follow my heart. My husband feels a connection to this young man, and he wants to try to help, so I think it is a good thing. Hopefully it will have a happy result like Amy ended up with.
That would be such a wonderful thing.
Anyway, since the big scene the other night, things have been quiet. Our "kid" has been to work everyday this week, and he has ate dinner with us every night except the night his mom came over. Last night he didnt even go out after dinner, he was helping my hubsand clean on his boat. I think they are planning on maybe takng it out this weekend.
I did go online and find some infomation from the local hospital where they have berevement specialist, and support groups for wow so many varying groups of people . So I printed all that off, and Im going to talk to his mom about maybe she would like to try a support group at least. I dont think I will mention it to "kid" right now, beause he's at least been to his sessions 2x this week. Certain of that because his mom checks with them to find out after every one and then informs me. Im not sure why, I gues she is happy he goes and wants me to know. But she has reduced her calls since our chat.