The last time I got flowers was mother's day 2008. Actually it was the first time that he ever got me flowers for mothers day. When he went out that morning, I had already written it off that he would be "disappearing" for days, or weeks. So he gave me the flowers and continued with his "silent treatment". I threw the flowers away.
They meant nothing. All they really meant was so that he could give himself a pat on the back, and say to himself, ---- "look at what a good husband I am"......
Edited to add------- flowers are now a trigger to me, I haven't gotten any since then, but I know that if I do---- I will feel like it is because they are trying to make themself feel better, and not me.
I think I still need a lot more work !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!