when my xabf was trying to win me back, he actually sent flowers to a dear friend of mine, who is also the counselor at the school that i just left. her office is right next door to my old classroom, and we talked daily about our respective relationships, which have many similarities. the card attached thanked her for always listening to me and being there for me, and said that he understood the pain she was going through in her relationship, as he was feeling it in ours.