Yes, I've seen that too. They act helpless and like a child, to get others to do what they want. It's called Control. They control and manipulate others into doing their will. They are very immature that way. Others can be very charming and use that to manipulate. They will use whatever they can to manipulate us. And those of us with weak boundaries and no assertiveness will fall right into being manipulated.
Stop thinking about HIS feelings. They are none of your business. You are making excuses for him and his sick ways of thinking, acting and behaving. We all do it. We make excuses for them so that we stay in the sickness, stuck in savior mode, stuck on the rollercoaster. You have to practice catching yourself making excuses for them.