Originally Posted by
Lenina 
Anger is a common reaction to a death. There's five stages of grief, I think it's Shock, Denial, Bargining, Anger and finally Acceptance. Everyone processes at different speeds, forms. Sudden death is tough. for me, it was up and down, back and forth. I think folks expect us to get "back to normal" much quicker than we can. honestly, for me the second year was very hard.
I was seeing a psychiatrist but I really needed someone who specialized in bereavement. I found a one through a Life Transitions program at a local hospital. She worked with terminal illnesses and deaths. She gave me some books, some assignments, a safe place to vent my anger at my husband. She really helped me resolve my feelings and made it possible for me to let go and adjust.
I hope this helps. I know how hard it is for everyone involved.
Love from Lenina
I see what you are saying now. Its not the same as a regular therapist who handles grief along with other things. This is more of a specialist in bereavement. I will do some research on that in our area and see what I can find. I think they could both benefit from that.
Yes I agree, it is often presumed that people who suffer loss can take few days or weeks, or even months and just get on with it. I lost someone very close to me, and within a couple of months people assumed I was all healed. They made me feel like something was wrong with me because I hadn’t been able to process my grief quicker and move on with my life in a more productive way.
Maybe that is why I feel empathy for him & his mom. Its not like I think I can fix them, but I can understand he has pain that may be causing his behavior to be this way, and because of that I think he needs a little bit more nurturing than would normally be given.
Thank you for all this information.