Ended it, Part 5: Closure
Short recap: Broke up with XABF last week after he was a mean, drunken jerk (day before my birthday I might add). He texted an apology Friday, no contact since. It's over.
Had a long talk with my preacher friend today. Had some spirituality questions about forgiveness, etc. He helped me come up with a way to accept XABF's apology/get closure for myself, and I had to return his key anyway. Here is what I'm sending:
B:
I wanted to tell you I got your messages Friday. I was moving and didn’t know how to respond. I guess I still don’t. Your words and behavior Wednesday and Thursday (not to mention the timing — before my birthday) really confused and hurt me.
That being said, I do appreciate your apology, and I wholeheartedly accept it.
I’m sorry for my own mistakes. I’m so sad that things didn’t work between us, as I very much valued our love and friendship. I will always be grateful to you and your family for your kindness and generosity. As we close this chapter, I sincerely wish you all the best with your next.
J
I feel better owning my feelings, my faults and my own closure.
Thanks for listening!