good for you for feeling good about something. i know that even though it was a very tough day, the day my exH moved out, i felt completely empowered by finally being on my own. i no longer felt that any of his issues were mine. it was like (as you said) a huge weight was lifted from my shoulders too. enjoy the moment and keep reminding that you are in a better position today. i can't comment on the rest of the stuff, but to be honest, does it matter? if he wants to keep screwing up his life then don't waste your energy even thinking about it or making sense of it. they are HIS issues to own. let them go. so my guess, your question about still being a codependent would still be, that you have still got room to grow. but hey, don't be hard on yourself, who doesn't have room to grow. enjoy your new found strength and power. you should be proud of yourself.