no the house going is not the reason for wanting a divorce. it was just the deadline that I set. I made it very clear that when the house was gone he wasn't coming with me, unless things were a complete 180 and he had something to contribute. It really does shake out to the other behaviors combined. I guess it was my way of giving him one more chance (for the 1,000th time) plus if I left him with the house he would trash it, he had flat out told me that.