I got the Rational Recovery book (and Taming the Feast Beast for myself) after talking with my AH about it; he said he would like to read it.
I read the chapter for families of A's first and saw that it was mine to read the whole book as well. (That works just fine for me.)
It also told me to first go and learn if my AH was chemically dependent or addicted. I hadn't made that distinguishing analysis yet. I talked with him about it and he is not addicted, he is chemically dependent.
This is a gift of clarity for me. I don't like what I see, but I would rather see the truth than see an illusion.
He hasn't touched the book. I'm glad I have.