Originally Posted by
dandylion 
Dear Liz, I am noting the interesting remarks your mother made about fantasyland. What do you think she was talking about? (if you care to share) My sister, to this day, seems to do the same thing. We have had some very brisk discussions about this. (she denies it). Am just wondering what the connection might be to the current situation.
dandylion,
Well, for me, it was that I always expected things to work out for the best. I always was staring out the window dreaming of a wonderful Leave it to Beaver life, LOL! My sister, on the other hand, literally couldn't see people's flaws. She and I both always overlooked people's flaws and character issues to the point where it was detrimental to us. My sister thought her husband was her knight in shining armor even when he quit his job so he could spend more time at the strip clubs. I think we both cling to hope and we feel that if we give up on our marriages, that we're failures. She is struggling with her marriage, too. Her husband is living with girlfriend number 1, started smoking pot at the age of 34, has started an affair with girlfriend number 2, and has since lost his job and destroyed his car in the months since he's left my sister. And, I still hear her saying things that make me think she MAY let him back someday in the future. We're 8 years apart in age, but it's obvious our childhood has affected both of and was detrimental to our self esteems.