Greet -
I think that you hit the nail on the head.....it's getting back to gratitude. I don't know why that struck me so today (it's not a problem, it just didn't turn out the way that I wanted, etc.) and as long as I get to a place of gratitude then all of a sudden my victim thinking begins to dissipate.
So...right now I am feeling REALLY grateful for each one of you....