I always related to the saying "when I change the way I look at things, the things I look at change" It's something I pull out whenever i feel myself slipping into a why me mind frame. Really helps me to shift perspective. Often it isn't what happened, it is just my perception of things. I am happy to say that the shift has helped me to believe there is always a positive even in the worst of circumstances. Seeking that positive (which is basically just making sure I always get back to gratitude) can truly change my reality. Thanks, Lightseeker!