Thanks Amy,
I guess I never thought of it this way, that they are aware of what they are saying at the time of saying it. She thinks that everyone is against her, trying to hurt her emotionally and I am the point of the knife. This last episode she for the first time brought the kids into it saying some things about them. They are all adults but it amazes me that people in her life that love her so much are the target of her rants. They have all told me that they see their mom for what she is. I havent told them all the nasty details, but I am thinking they will see them for themselves as this progresses.