Originally Posted by
grizz 
She is so far in denial she wouldnt recognize reality if it smacked her.
That pretty well sums it up. I think that 2 separate people live here; my wife and the alcoholic and neither of them know the existance of the other.
In my experience, she doesn't remember what she said regardless of sober or not. It's all just a variation of the same theme. I have better conversations with a 2 year old who at least will remember what they told me.
Sorry for being negative. Some nights are worse than others. I understand what you're experiencing and I hope you find peace.