i was with a NA (but a closet drinker), my NA quit his drugs first then started using alcohol about 4 mths later....
I ran to an AL ANON meeting FOR ME...not him, for me....
my NA was going to Narcotic Anonymous and started his recovery...
i was so confused....didnt know why he could quit drugs but continue on with the alcohol....
now 2 years later and with AL ANON under my belt, and reading all i can, and re reading and realizing my co dependent ways.....it all helps to understand what i can do for ME...
SHE has her own recovery....AA/NA with AL ANON/NAR ANON can work together....
go to a meeting...it is going to be so refreshing for you...