I dont know the history with you and this man, but i know from experience its not good for anyone. I was involved in a bad relationship. Of course he didnt show me the real him right away. like a gentlemen he waited until I was in love with him and serious in out relationship before he became verbally then after awhile longer physically abusive. Stay strong and do what you have to for your kids and yourself. It may seem like the wrong thing to do at times but you have to protect your little ones and give yourself the chance to be loved the way you deserve to be loved. Best of wishes