For me, I learned to deal with all those emotions while working my own program of recovery in Al-Anon & coming here (SR)
I got a sponsor, worked the 12 steps, attended meetings, journaled, prayed, cried, journaled some more, attended open AA meetings, listened to speaker tapes (al-anon & AA), read & read & read lots of recovery literature ~
I actually did all this while still living with an alcoholic/addict/gambling husband ~ as I got better, he continued to get worse ~
I did reached a point where I wasn't angry or resentful any longer ~ about 6 months later I left. I realized I really felt nothing but distance compassion for this man that was no longer someone healthy enough to be a part of my life.
BUT the key part is I did find healing before I left.
Just as the Big Book of AA states that the alcoholic can find sobriety no matter what " wife, no wife, job, no job" I believe we can truly find our own recovery regardless
Just my e, s, & h
PINK HUGS,
Rita