What I can do ... was admit I have a problem. And, I can change me for myself. When I did that...everything changed. You can not change your husband. God knows I tried to get sober for people so many times, but, I could lose people, places and things and still go back to drinking. It wasn't until I lost my spirtual connection to myself and the Universe that I felt lost and alone like I was unable to stand being in my own skin.