Originally Posted by wanttobehealthy

I think you mistook what I was saying... I would NEVER ever invite him. I have not given him the slightest inclination that is an option. I am saying that his behavior around events- holidays, birthdays etc... tends to be crazier than normal and always has been and that as I have identified for some time with him, the MORE I keep clear boundaries in place and the less interaction of any sort I have with him, the harder he tries to involve himself. I guess I was playing pop psychologist a bit. It is my guess that he expected me to want him involved in my birthday and when that did not happen he decided to take matters into his own hands. That's just my guess. That's all I was saying.