Hi Destiny,
Sorry you are feeling so low. I don't know your history but it sounds like you have been working on your own recovery and understand the dynamics of detachment. Hope you are attending alanon when possible.
You said your A is recovering... is in active recovery or is he just abstinent from alcohol? If he is just "not drinking" that is usually quite temporary for an A unless they are seriously working a program.
If you value the relationship and he is truly trying to find recovery and you want it to work out it sounds like you may want to consider a good counselor who is well versed in relationships, alcholism and codependency.
I was in counseling for four years with XA and we were great at communicating our feelings with eachother... he just couldn't stop drinking permanently! Even when he wasn't drinking and was in true recovery it wasn't all lollipops, rainbows and roses.
Relationships are hard in the normal realm but they are off the chain hard with alcoholic and codependent... it can work out... but you gotta work it out... usually in meetings and on the couch together.
Hope that helps a little. Take care of you and have some fun real soon! Do something you love with friends.