When I start slipping, I start looking for ways find stability.
I need to feel grounded, secure, and appreciated. I know that I need to be the source of those feelings too.
To get grounded, I need to release the pressure that has been building inside. The fastest way for me to release is exercise. Power walking is my method. It only requires a pair of shoes and me to step outside the door. I start out fast with long strides. I am pounding the pavement and sorting my thoughts at the same time. Later, I am too tired to worry about someone else's business.
To feel secure, I check myself. What do I need to do to take care of myself today? How can I show myself that I am taking care of me today?
To feel appreciated, I use positive affirmations. Notes to myself on my mirror that I read outloud while looking myself in the eye have been a powerful way to verbalize my appreciation of me.
An excellent resource on self care is the book "You can Heal Your Life" by Louise Hay
Sending encouragement and support as you regain solid serenity in your life.