I'm fairly new, but I personally need to hear the A's perspective as the wife of a RA.... my husband is only 10 months sober & still struggling to identify all of his issues so he can't always verbalize what he's going through. (and he is HORRID at communication all around, it's the #1 thing we have been working to correct.) I lurk quite a bit over in the Alcoholics forums because it really helps me to gain understanding of things that happened in the past & all the physiological changes his body & mind are still going through. It helps with my patience.
And often, I bring up things I've read here when I'm at home & it becomes a great conversation starter for us.