Lizatola.... It's madness, confusing, mind blowing, bizarre, annoying, frustrating, sad, scary, irritating to live with an active addict and often times one who is sober and not embracing true recovery.
I know the chaos all to well and went back for mre maaaaany times hoping it would be different "if" and "when" and "this time because" it was te same ending each and every time.
I needed to really get exhausted before I went no contact. I was spent emotionally and physically. My spiritual self saved me before I caused further damage to my self.
Please if you can keep your expectations extremely low. I know easier sad than done.
BIG HUG