It doesn't make sense to be impatient or resentful towards my alcoholic wife because it is MY choice to be with her. How is it right to be impatient or resentful of someone I CHOOSE to be with. I can't change her nor do I even have the right to change her. She has the same right as I do to live our lives the way we want. Who am I to judge? Only God judges....not me. If I don't like it; then I should leave and, since I CHOOSE not to, then how is it right to blame her. I get it !!!!!
I see her suffering, struggling to stay sober, and I have compassion for my own struggle as well. My self-pity and resentment are gone.
~ Staying on the Path ~
Your circumstances do not determine
what your life will be;
they reveal what kinds of images you
have chosen up until now.
To change yourself,
look at what you fear
and what you hate.
Start There.
We are all at once teachers and learners
in every encounter of our lives.
What's over is over.
You did what you knew how to do.
It wasn't right or wrong or good or bad.
It just was. But all you've got is today.
You can't have it back.
You're always alone,
but you're only lonely if you don't like
the person you're alone with.
Your love is located within you.
It is yours to nurture and savor.
It is yours to give in any way you choose.
This is true for others as well.
If someone you love fails to return
the love the way you would like it returned,
that is the other person's choice.
It doesn't at all detract from your love.
Whatever is going on inside of you
is up to you. You own it all.
It's yours.
Get your nose out of everybody else's garden.
Get your own in order, and stop focusing on
everybody else's. Grow what you want to grow
in your garden.
All that you need
in order to have total happiness,
fulfilllment, and love in your life
you already have right now,
whoever you are, wherever you are.
Everything I ever worried about
turned out exactly as it was going to
despite my worry moments
to the contrary.
You mustn't attempt to will anything.
You need only be willing.
There is a rhythm to the universe.
When we are able to get quiet enough,
we experience how we are a part of that
perfect rhythm.
Advance confidently in the direction
of your dreams to live the life that
you have imagined.
That's when you have success.
Each of us has a well of infinite depth
within us, which contains more potential
for creativity than we can
ever imagine.
No one can depress you.
No one can make you anxious. No one
can hurt your feelings. No one can make
you anything other than what
you allow inside.
With everything
that has happened to you,
you can either feel sorry for yourself,
or treat what has happened as a gift.
Everything is either an opportunity to grow
or an obstacle to keep you from growing.
You get to choose.
When you argue for your limitations,
all you get are your
limitations.
Live...Be you...Enjoy...Love.
Dr. Wayne Dyer
Staying on the Path
Hay House Inc., Carson, CA 1995