Am a guy, but quit cold-turkey more than 10 yrs ago. After 3.5 yrs, or so, I thought "maybe I am not an alcoholic". So I started back. Mild at first. Kept in check for a year. Then it took me over again.
Now drinking so much and 10 yrs older that I am afraid to quit without medical oversight
Am same was with tobacco.
What I have learned of myself and others through the years....you have to want to quit. Otherwise, you're wasting time. A person has to feel it themselves.
Sorry if this went a shade off topic.
All my best.