My advice to anyone who really wants to recover is:
1. Make a firm and unconditional commitment to stop drinking/using.
2. Do whatever you need to do to keep that commitment. This may mean joining a support group (such as SMART Recovery, LifeRing, SOS, SR, or AA). It may mean following the RR/AVRT philosophy. It may mean working with a counselor.
3. If something you've tried doesn't help, don't be afraid to try something different.