Thank you for all the replies. Today I'm angry more than anything, he killed my fish and threw away things that belonged to my mother who passed 4 years ago. I'm sure I'll be going back and forth between anger and tears and everything in between. He won't let me get the rest of my things from the house. I don't know why he's so mad, he chose the bottle, I gave him what he wanted. I don't even want anything big, just my personal items, stuff that belonged to my mom, and my Christmas ornaments. He can keep the house, furniture, TV, computer, etc. I just want to start all over and build my own life. Ugh.