I understand what you're feeling and I did it for soooo long! Just before I divorced him when he was somewhat coherent I told him: "You will never know what you just threw away and what you are losing right now. I was the best wife, friend, lover, mother of your children, and on top of that a great cook. You through away all of it for your bottle, you don't deserve me." For the first time I think in our marriage he had nothing to come back to me with, and I began to believe myself what I just told him.