Wow, Anvil, that was a good read! Thank you so much for posting it. I think I really then need to learn what LOVE really is, because I am having trouble understanding how I can be loving towards someone when their choices negatively affect MY life and my child's life.
I guess I see love and detachment as two separate things. Either you stay together using mutual love and respect or you separate and that becomes your detachment. I haven't figured out how to be detached while still living under the same roof. Boy, do I have a lot to learn!