I wanted to let you all know that my husband received a text from SD's mum this evening. We asked her, about 2 weeks ago now if she could let us know where she was born because we are renewing SD's passport for a foreign holiday we're taking in August, and she sent a text with that information at the beginning. She followed it by saying that SHE wants to see SD and that she wants my husband to 'do some work on her your end, when she's calmed down'! He replied, very simply, and said that she is calm and comfortable with her decision, which we both fully support, and that he suggests she leaves SD alone and if SD ever wants to contact her, she will. Haven't heard anything back, as yet.
We haven't mentioned this text to SD, and will not mention her mother to her again and will only discuss mum if SD raises the subject. We think that's best.