Originally Posted by
sugarbear1 
You aren't stopping the child from having a relationship with her mom. It is her choice. Counseling may help. Alateen is still listed in the internet.
http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/meetings/
Know you have the best interest of the child and are doing everything you can to help her.
Peace, love, & hugs,
Thanks for that and I checked. The nearest one to us is 45 miles away which unfortunately isn't doable due to our work etc. She is having weekly counselling sessions at school, so hopefully that will be sufficient for now. We found a hand indentation on our fridge door the other day, and as it wasn't either my husband or myself, or my 19 year old son (I asked him, and I know when he's lying because he just cannot do it!), so it must be SD taking her anger out. We haven't confronted her with it because we don't feel we should, although perhaps a punch bag in the garden would be a better place to vent!