Originally Posted by NYCDoglvr

Oooops, I apologize. I had a mental picture of someone in their 20's. Of course it involves you. It sounds like SD has a good head on her shoulders, enough self-esteem to not let her mother play alcoholic games with her. I'd offer to be a sounding board if she wants to talk about any of this. This is only about a young girl in a painful situation taking enormous steps to be healthy. You're handling this well -- just tell mom that SD will contact her if she wants to.

When I was 11 I moved moved to my grandma & aunt's farm. My mother wasn't an alcoholic but she was schizophrenic and not someone who could deal with children. I stayed there until going away to college. Many years later my mother and I mended our fences, when her mental illness improved greatly. My life would have been totally different if I hadn't been raised in a healthy environment with people who genuinely loved me.